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{"id":3310,"date":"2021-05-23T23:56:27","date_gmt":"2021-05-23T18:26:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kanikachughs.com\/something-about-self-love\/"},"modified":"2021-05-24T00:52:45","modified_gmt":"2021-05-23T19:22:45","slug":"something-about-self-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kanikachughs.com\/something-about-self-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Something about Self-Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure data-carousel-extra='{\"blog_id\":1,\"permalink\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kanikachughs.com\\\/something-about-self-love\\\/\"}'  class=\"is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-1 wp-block-gallery columns-1 is-cropped\"><ul class=\"blocks-gallery-grid\"><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img data-attachment-id=\"3309\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/kanikachughs.com\/something-about-self-love\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?fit=736%2C831&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"736,831\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?fit=266%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?fit=697%2C787&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"697\" height=\"787\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?resize=697%2C787&#038;ssl=1\" data-id=\"3309\" class=\"wp-image-3309\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?w=736&amp;ssl=1 736w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/kanikachughs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/9547dced80822068e1da40cd6be53c941449732185374984989.jpg?resize=266%2C300&amp;ssl=1 266w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 697px) 100vw, 697px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><figcaption class=\"blocks-gallery-item__caption\">P.C : Pinterest (to the rightful owner)<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/li><\/ul><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><br \/>I am intrigued by these preaching day in and day out (I have a feeling so would other people) so I dug a little bit deeper about self-love.<br \/>Does anyone realize it\u2019s a real struggle for people with insecurities, inhibitions, prolonged fears or abandonment issues? Their sinful habit of over-thinking the scenarios, reliving the embarrassing moments, being the cause of a mishap, unconsciously putting themselves under the victim\u2019s light makes it impossible to reach the road of well-being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s a hard-nut for people who have hit rock bottom or going through a worse heartbreak or have been deceived by their close ones. They don\u2019t punish others. They punish themselves. They forget how it feels to love oneself.<br \/>This leads me to the other parameter which is needed to be considered before you set yourself on a journey of self-love.<br \/>\u2018Journey!\u2019 I said journey because I realized this is an ongoing process and not a single destination that you reach once and it\u2019s over. You got to find yourself again and again whenever you are caught amidst the desert of sorrows, dejections or miseries.<br \/>Every time life throws a mishap, a tragedy or a disaster we forget to put ourselves first and reach the bottomless bottoms where we keep on drowning without seeing any ray of hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This leads me to the other parameter which is needed to be considered before you set yourself on a journey of self-love.<br \/>\u2018Journey!\u2019 I said journey because I realized this is an ongoing process and not a single destination that you reach once and it\u2019s over. You got to find yourself again and again whenever you are caught amidst the desert of sorrows, dejections or miseries.<br \/>Every time life throws a mishap, a tragedy or a disaster we forget to put ourselves first and reach the bottomless bottoms where we keep on drowning without seeing any ray of hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The other and the most important pointer for me is when people say \u2018Accept me the way I am\u2019. I find this as a half-truth.<br \/>To love yourself you have to truly accept yourself. Accepting yourself comes with a dare of improving and working on the toxic straits you bear.<br \/>Ever happened to you that you met someone and disliked them instantly? Not because they did something wrong to you, nor they carried any ill vibes towards you. But you just disliked them for no apparent reason.<br \/>Well, it happened to me. I kept on thinking, kept on introspecting why am I bearing a sudden disgust towards that person? Then I got an answer. I saw all those habits, patterns, traits that I never liked in myself. I didn\u2019t like the mirror I was made to see. Things I should have changed or work upon but instead ignored and glorified it saying \u2018This is the way I am, can\u2019t help it.\u2019 Deep down I knew it but never acknowledged it until I worked upon it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you face yourself you clearly see those toxic traits. Turn of events; this is where you don\u2019t hate yourself, or run away from or ignore them. The only way to get rid of the self-loathing episodes is to face it and fight it.<br \/>Its very easy to accept the best parts of yours but it takes enormous guts to accept those ugliest ones and an undaunted belief that you can work upon those to improve yourself.<br \/>Your behavior, mannerisms, clean habits, healthy boundaries, conduct towards yourself and others; all these are in your control.<br \/>And anything else that apart from these like the appearances, statures, anything which isn\u2019t in your control that must be truly accepted, respected by you and cherished by the people around. 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